Kugonana ndi mlendo kapena bwenzi latsopano kuli ndi zabwino zake. Zimawonjezera zochitika, ngakhale lingaliro la choletsedwa chotero kwa ambiri limadzutsa, kuwerengera mphamvu ndi malingaliro a mnzanuyo. Kugonana mu bar kumakhala kosangalatsa komanso kosasangalatsa ngati pabedi. Kugonana kumatako ndi kusisita kwa banjali kumayenera kuyamikiridwa ndi kulimbikitsidwa.
Ndikuganiza kuti msungwana wokongola wamutu wofiira anali kuyesera zolimba kuti abweze chisomocho, kotero kuti adalipira mopitilira muyeso komanso mopanda dyera anachita zachinyengo, makamaka popeza mikhalidwe yabwino ya kabati yapamwamba imaloledwa kutero mwangwiro.